Comments on: Breaking up, vers. 2.0

By: Shalin

Shalin — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 14:27:36 +0000

Interesting story about “online relationships”. Sorry it didn’t work out, but it’s nice you got some valued insights out of it :)

Best,
Shalin

By: Ross C Brown

Ross C Brown — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 22:12:55 +0000

On the Mac its called trash and it sits on the dock. On Windows its called the Recycle Bin. The both do the same thing - rid you of bad logs etc.

But I’m sure that he existence of said logs etc is not getting you down. I always find I want to take back all the good stuff - and of course the sad truth is you can’t delete what is in your head…

By: MedicMan

MedicMan — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 06:54:56 +0000

That’s why I prefer to call it ’stalkerbook’ ;)

All the chatting and documenting is really great, untill…..

By: Kanishka

Kanishka — Mon, 03 Sep 2007 15:49:12 +0000

You sound like techie Carrie Bradshaw. I love it. And I’m sorry it didn’t work out.

By: Cyril

Cyril — Fri, 31 Aug 2007 23:53:23 +0000

Thanks for sharing this Neha. I can just agree on everything - i had a quite similar experience about 10 years ago (gloups… it makes me feel older now). The girl just took longer to reply to my messages, stopped her IM presence (she wasn’t really a “web-addict”) to finally broke the contact.

Now, i don’t regret anything - i enjoyed all the time spent with her on the net, but i’m just a bit sad to have no news from her until our last message in june 1999 (ok, i admit, i kept it :-)).

Relationships can be really simple or terribly complicted, but i think “that’s life !”, and “the show must go on” [...]

* Lacuna Inc. could be a great idea, or maybe you could try Rekal and their virtual vacation memories :-)

By: Prasid

Prasid — Fri, 31 Aug 2007 21:44:47 +0000

awesome entry. very true. i can easily relate.

By: Neema

Neema — Fri, 31 Aug 2007 21:40:47 +0000

It’s interesting how the net is changing these sorts of dynamics. Like anything, there’s an up side and a down. Through the plethora of social networking tools we are able to expand our connections beyond what we have ever been able to and really connect with people all over the world. I believe this has been a valuable addition to our lives.

We are new to this though, and it is difficult to know how best to deal with things, whether they be friendships, romantic relationships, or even business relationships. I think we are still learning how these relationships work and their similarities and differences to the ‘real-life’ portion of our relationships. We will have to learn new ways of dealing with the bad that comes with all the good we take from it.

I think we have all had similar experiences to this and we learn from it. I still see my ex on my facebook and she pokes me from time to time. It’s difficult at times. You can’t help but read what someone has said on their wall, or see the new picture of them. These are things you are able to avoid when dealing with strictly ‘real-world’ relationships.

For me, the benefit that comes from us being able to be so uber-connected far outweighs these negatives. A relationship ending is a difficult thing to deal with under any circumstances. I find that distracting myself with non-internet hobbies is a good way to stop the constant reminder. I finally bought a bicycle and took up cycling.

By: Seth

Seth — Fri, 31 Aug 2007 13:35:33 +0000

“…losing someone in your life is the pits…online and off.”

I couldn’t agree more.

I’ve just finished up on a divorce (which could have been much worse) with very little fighting between the two of us. Even tho were still friends and talk, it still stinks.

I’ve already had one blind date that has pretty much scared the crap out of me. I don’t think I’ll ever do that again. I’ve been out of the dating scene for far too long.

Maybe I’ll just spend my days playing Wii until I’m old enough to chase little kids off my lawn with a rake. :)

By: Davor

Davor — Fri, 31 Aug 2007 10:36:49 +0000

Should I start this with “I personally believe”? Joking aside, I think we all have had that kind of feeling for someone that we met online and have chatted with on the daily basis. Every single one of us develop a habit a sort of personal attachment with a person that we know briefly or we have never ever met. The thing is in my opinion it’s easier to talk about your feelings online via text chat or even on voice then talking about that in person. Furthermore, there is another factor of making your chat session a habit so when your friend is not online you feel kind of disappointed and vice versa. The fact is that the Internet is setting up some new social standards that we are all accepting as a normal thing. As people are being more comfortable expresing their emotions online, we often can hear someone say ” I fell for this girl online” Would one feel the same way in person? I am not so sure. We tend to hiding who we really are sometimes whilest on the Internets it’s easier to find the word to express yourself. It does not have to be about emtions or love. For instance, I am shy in person and sometimes I find difficult to express myself. Online however it is much easier for me to write and talk about things. OMG, I dont know how all this look like it could be a bunch of B.S :blushes:

By: Alt

Alt — Fri, 31 Aug 2007 09:13:43 +0000