The comic book chauvinist
Friday, December 11, 2009 at 03:06AM On Wednesday night, I entered one of my favorite comic book stores in Berkeley. I had a short amount of time, but was in the neighborhood and wanted to visit a place I frequented when I attended Cal. I have always loved comic book stores as it feels comfortable, like (a much more interesting) home. My actual place mimics a comic book store with a collection of figurines, literature on various comic franchises, and of course, comic books on display. It's not a coincidence.
Don't encourage your local comic book chauvinist.At the counter, I checked in my bag and the two clerks commended me on having the Boba Fett key chain hanging off my backpack by saying I got "extra points" for that. I shrugged my shoulders and carried on by walking towards my favorite publishers. After I found an interesting section and picked up a book, a Barry White-esc song started playing from the store stereo system. I looked up and realized that every person in the comic book store was not only male, but looking at me with a smirk at that moment. I rolled my eyes and continued sifting through the Marvel box. Soon after they got their giggles in, they cut the obnoxious music.
It was obvious that these guys were trying to get a rise out of me and I tried to humor (read: ignore) them, but it seemed as if my peaceful stroll to the comic book store was going to be anything but that. I went over to a different corner and this 40-something-year-old man [who obviously lacked social skills] walked up to me a complimented my gloves. Yes, gloves. Sure they are cute, but really they are your run-of-the-mill hipster fingerless gloves. That was not what disturbed me, but what came later is my inspiration for writing this blog post. I was looking at action figures in the dimly lit jewel case and noticed Marvel's Captain America surrounded by Superman and a number of other DC characters. I didn't see any other Marvel heroes or foes so I asked for help, and was directed to where the rest of the Marvel characters were. After he showed me their location on the obscured side of the shelf, the 40-something-year-old quipped "You know, if you don't know the difference between Marvel and DC, you should probably not look at or buy one of those." The clerk answered him with, "Well, maybe it's a present for someone else." I find it hard to believe that the only reason a girl would be at a comic book store is to buy her nerdy boyfriend a comic book figurine. I turned around and said to the chauvinist, "Look, I know the difference between Marvel and DC very well, I've been collecting since I was about seven-years-old." He had no response and was flustered by my response. I wanted to drop some knowledge on him but realized he wasn't worth my time, which I already had little of walking into the store. I promptly bought my stuff and left the place with a sour aftertaste.
I know a lot of you who have followed my career are male and may actually frequent comic book stores. The truth is, it sucks being treated different as a female especially if it involves insulting my genuine interest or intellect. Some of you out there may have thoughts like the comic book chauvinist at your local game store, Best Buy, (insert dorky hangout here), but I encourage you to think outside of the box. That girl might be dragging her boyfriend/brother to the comic book or video game store [I've done both], not the other way around. She may be an avid gamer who cheered when Samus Aran took off her helmet in Metroid after spending weeks playing it as a child. She might be the girl who loves comic book conventions, buys three-day-passes, and likens them to heaven. She might be a lot like me, so think twice before you made snide remarks to a female who is on "your" turf.
I have been going to comic book stores all my life and have noticed some behavioral shifts when I am outnumbered, but it has never been as blatant as this last visit. Sure, I can take a joke, even some Barry White, but not that they only cause I have to be at the comic book store is to pick up a gift for man. One of the first things that made me fall in love with comic books was how female super heroes were often on the same footing as their male counterparts. They were sexy, but that never discounted their inherent power. Especially in new media, I feel like my lady peers and I are as smart (if not smarter) than our co-stars and can be that savvy personality while looking beautiful. Not all men are like this comic book chauvinist [who clearly has never watched A Comicbook Orange, by the way] and I hope that you reading this recognize this attitude in your friends, coworkers, etc. and try to stop it. Remember, there's a reason why Jean Grey is considered one of the most powerful mutants and has a huge cult following; it's not because she looks good in spandex. For that same reason, I love comic books and will continue going to comic book stores--well except for this one in Berkeley. They are now on my "avoid" list. I hope they stop making females feel unwelcome unless they plan on evolving into asexual beings. There's a mutant power that would benefit those guys!



Reader Comments (15)
Sounds to me like these guys need some social interaction that doesn't involve comic books.
Neha - that's awful. I'm kind of surprised that this store is in Berkeley. wtf? I agree with Jumbybird that those guys really just sound like they have issues with social skills...
You rule...
First of, these guys are obviously idiots. They have a beautiful and intelligent girl who loves comics come into their shop, and they welcome her by insulting her. Secondly, I don't know where they've been, but girls who are into comics is not a rare site know a days. My sister loves comics, she even keeps a countdown to Comic-Con on her website. Next their gonna say that there's no such thing as a girl gamer. I know so many girls that love comics, but try not to talk about it cause stupid guys like these never take them serious. But I'm glad you stood up to them, hopefully some of it got through, and they'll learn not to judge a book by it's cover. (pun intended)
I certainly don't condone their behavior but, the comment about not knowing DC from Marvel may have stemmed from this "Captain America, Superman, and a number of other DC characters were there, but I couldn't see any Marvel heroes or foes." Captain America Is Marvel. That small mistake may have set them off.
@Jumpybird & Amanda: I agree! I think the staff was a little obnoxious, but the 40-year-old was clearly older [and should have been wiser?]
@HitnRunTony- Thanks for your thoughts! I know a ton of ladies who are into comics and video games as well. I think that chauvinist was stuck in the 1950s or maybe hasn't been outside for a long time. Who knows?
@Hanshaw- Thanks so much for noticing a series of poorly constructed sentences [now fixed]. I meant to say that I saw Captain America [the only Marvel figure that I could find] and a whole bunch of DC, but no other Marvel characters besides him which was weird. If they had Capt. America, they should have others right? Thanks for pointing that out--let me know if what I have now clarifies it. I wrote this blog post at 2AM last night, which I clearly need to stop doing. My g33k cred will go down the drain!
perfectly clarified, I was pretty sure you knew already.
I agree with all of the other comments, the way you were treated was beyond shameful. If they treat all the ladies who are collectors and fans like that then they are guaranteed to see far fewer of them. I've seen several women in the comic shop I frequent and I know that if anyone acted like that there, the guys that work there would show them the door.
What's on your reading list lately?
@Hanshaw- Great, thanks!
@Darrell- Thanks for your support, I agree--I've been treated kindly and with respect [mostly] in the past. Reading list--I've been meaning to catch up on some JLA and Spidey, both of which I have fallen behind on. Have any recommendations?
I wouldn't have bought a thing from that place.
Buffy The Vampire Slayer Season 8 is my favorite read every month. Other than that, I'm a bit of a Marvel junkie. Joss Whedon's Astonishing X-Men run was great. Jason Aaron's Wolverine: Weapon X, the new Ultimate Spider-Man by Brian Michael Bendis, the various Stephen King Dark Tower mini-series.
Although I agree that that guys comments were terrible, I do not agree about your feelings about dropping knowledge. Dropping knowledge is always appropriate. That being said, I do not know what kind of girls these guys read with (if at all) but my female comic book nerds are the ones that always know more than me.
Well, except for Wolverine.
Was the clerks name Akbar! They fucked with wrong girl.....Cause you a super nerd.
Y'know... I walked into this comment thinking "The geek population really needs more she-geeks in the mix, because this exact problem is way too prevalent," but I can't quite say that.
Not because I don't think it's the case. No. I find myself getting hung up on the term 'she-geek'. Even though I've used it for years, -today- I'm finding myself oddly sensitive to its potential political incorrectness. Understand that I'm by no means intending to infer that the default geek is male (no matter what statistics say), and that female geeks need to be held apart from that.
Thanks, Neha, for smacking me upside the back of the head with a reminder and a fresh perspective on a social problem that's so deeply ingrained that I'm having to recalibrate my use of language to purge it. Not that I imagine myself to be an egregious offender, but I'd rather fix a small problem than let it grow and get worse.
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